How Child Abuse Affects You Later In Life With Making Money StumbleUpon

Is it more difficult for a Child Abuse Survivor and a Survivor of Child Molestation with mental issues to make money and be successful? What about Oprah Winfrey? She was abused as a child wasn’t she and look at her.

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Before the age of five, I was used to being abused and living in fields or orchards. My father was an alcoholic who also suffered from mental illness. Every penny myself, my six siblings and mother made, went into his bottles of Thunderbird wine. Being beaten was much more frequent for my other siblings from him.

My mother used to hold me under the watter in the bathtub unitl I stopped thrashing. At the age of about two and a half, she jerked me out of the water too hard and broke my arm. My older brothers were told that if they said anything, they would go to foster homes. That would have been better actually.

People used to always say what a beautiful child I was and mother hated that. To stop it she would pinch me so I would cry and not be cute anymore.

Finally, when I was about five, we were all sent to foster homes. I think part of the reason for that was because my mother failed at trying to sell us in a Safeway parking lot and just wanted to be rid of us. Two sisters and one brother were sent to one foster home, myself and one older brother to another, and the oldest brother and youngest sister to two other foster homes.

For the next couple of years, we were bounced from foster home to foster home because we all had so many emotional problems that nobody wanted to keep us. Perhaps they couldn’t. So I ended up in a foster home alone. I was only about six so I quickly began calling the foster parents mom and dad. A couple of years later, my older brother of two years, came to live their as well. He told me to call them by their first names because they were not our parents so I did.

The foster home was always clean. The foster parents had three children of their own. They attended the local Pentacostal church, The Assembly of God. We went to church Sunday morning and evening as well as Wednesday evening.

When I turned 10, the foster grand mother’s neighbor began molesting me. When I told, the state said they would make him stay away and that was it. It didn’t work. I decided to start acting like the opposite sex by the age of 12 in hopes that this might keep him away. That didn’t work so I started running away and trying to kill myself. Finally, at 13 I was sent to the state hospital where I was locked away for eighteen months.

During the seventies, child molestation and child abuse were not talked about like they are today. It was all kept within a tight circle and not discussed.

Eventually, I believed that all I was good for was sex. If I had sex with someone that must mean they loved me. I found out that wasn’t true at all. It took a long time.

My siblings for the most part have all led the same kinds of lives. They cannot stay married, have a lot of problems and it’s not surprising. There really has never been any closure.

Child abuse and molestation affects you and your world for the rest of your life in one way or another. You have to have the strength to keep going and put it away somewhere or it will destroy your life.

I spent a lot of years thinking the world owed me because nobody rescued me at any time during my childhood. The truth is, that’s what happened and it’s over. I must make a decision to either let it eat me alive or put it behind me where it belongs. Not everyone is able to do that and I think faulting them for that is very wrong. We should not judge others based on whether we moved on. Perhaps they couldn’t find the strength to do the same.

We are all individuals and what works for one person may not work for someone else. I don’t know what happened in Oprah’s head. I don’t know how it affects her. I can tell you that I am convinced that in one way or another, it affects every person who endured it, for the rest of their lives.

If you even think that someone may be being abused, you need to find a confident that is capable of helping without endangering anyone or making the situation worse. If you know that someone is being abused and you allow it to happen, that to me places you at the same level as the abuser.

Coming back to the title and subject at hand. How does being a child abuse or child molestation survivor affect you your ability to make money later in life.

It makes it so that when you do succeed, you always question yourself as to whether you deserve it or not. You are not sure if it’s alright to succeed.

If you need help or know of someone who needs help, please contact the Child Abuse Hotline or the Domestic Abuse Hotline. Don’t give up, Get Out!

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